Sister Wives: Robyn & Kody's Victim Act Keeps The Ex-Wives Off Balance (Signs Their Coyote Pass Drama & A-List Lifestyle Make Them Villains)

Sister Wives stars Kody and Robyn Brown aren't all bad, but they've acted like victims more than once, and when they do, they sometimes hurt other people, including their exes, Meri, Janelle and Christine Brown. In Sister Wives season 19, Kody and Robyn aren't always on the same page, but they're still a duo. It usually seems like it's them against the world.

That's why it's so jarring when Robyn talks about her dream slipping away because Kody can't make it work with his other wives. This is an example of Robyn playing a little violin that should be placed in a case that's never, ever re-opened.Robyn, who secretly wanted monogamy, is not so convincing when she acts heartbroken over the crumbling of the Brown family. When Kody blames that situation on his ex-wives, who suffered long and hard in their spiritual unions, it's just sad.

Kody & Robyn Really Hurt Meri, Janelle & Christine

They Might Not Have Meant To

Yes, Kody and Robyn are allowed to have problems - their feelings are valid. They are human beings and the tortured dynamic in the Brown family hasn't been easy for anyone to live with. However, it could be argued that they were the prime movers in terms of making that dynamic a reality. No, they might not have meant any harm, but the end result was pain - pain for good women who tried their best to make the Brown family a happy and cohesive unit.

Right now, the war over Coyote Pass is yet another thorn in "victim" Kody's side, but the solution is so simple. There's no need to drag the problem out endlessly, waffling over the fate of four Arizona plots. All Kody needs to do is sell it, putting a definitive end to the botched Coyote Pass saga.

If he does, everyone who invested will get their share, except for Christine, who unloaded her portion for 10 dollars, washing her hands of the whole sordid mess.

Instead, Kody can't decide what to do with the land - he feels it's his decision, and his ex-wives are frustrated. The kinds of power trips that Kody pulls over financial matters are aggravating his exes, who try to cut through his indecision to keep their lives moving. They are not wrong to want these matters settled once and for all.

It's not just his money that's invested in that haunted patch of earth, but theirs, although he says, in true patriarchal fashion, that he owns the lion's share. In plural families, fairness about money should be a priority, so everyone is taken care of.

Yes, Sister Wives' Kody Brown owns it on paper, but does he really have the right to 97 percent? Didn't the other wives, including Janelle, who toiled to bring home the bacon for all the Browns, including 18 Brown children (1 now sadly deceased, and greatly missed), do their bit to keep the family thriving? Sure, they did.

Janelle says Kody holds the purse strings, making decisions about how to spend, and that it's always been that way. This is the danger of polygamy - it takes decision-making out of the hands of grown women who are well able to reason things out and make choices. It infantilizes women who are bright, courageous and hanging onto dreams of their own. When Kody and Robyn complain about their woes, it seems like those problems don't compete with what the exes have had to endure. Starting over isn't easy.

Kody Brown Should Try To See his Exes' Points Of View

Their Stories Matter

Kody probably won't share the proceeds from a potential Coyote Pass sale equally among his three ex-wives, but maybe that wouldn't be such a bad idea. He has mixed emotions about the property, as per the TLC clip shown above. From all the long days Janelle put in, earning money to put food on the table, to the housekeeping and childcare that Meri and Christine did, the wives were there, building the family.

The domestic chores were unpaid. The time spent caring for children was unpaid, but it was work, wasn't it? Where would Kody and Robyn be without it? They wouldn't have been able to attain the upscale standard of living that they have now, but the exes won't get equal shares of the proceeds from Coyote Pass. It might be legal, but sometimes it doesn't feel right.

There is a lot of sympathy for Kody's ex-wives. They're in middle age, and they've needed to rebuild from the ground up, although they gave so much of themselves to Kody. Janelle has suffered the most, as she and Kody lost their beloved son, Garrison. To go through that and lose a husband due to a split is a lot.

The way that Janelle has handled her problems is inspiring, but Kody doesn't seem to value that kind of grit. If he did, he'd sell Coyote Pass and give Janelle some money, as she's said that she doesn't have a lot.

Meri, Janelle and Christine had to face some hard truths about polygamy. They've needed to let go of beliefs that they had for years. Their faith has been tested over and over again. That's why Kody and Robyn should never do the whole victim thing with those women.

It's hard to compare the lifestyles of Janelle and Meri with Kody and Robyn's without passing judgment. That's because Kody and Robyn wear designer jewelry, and live in million-dollar homes. Kody and Robyn have got a good lifestyle, and gratitude for what they have will come off better than petty complaints.

The Sister Wives exes have harder roads to trudge, and they walk those miles with as much grace as they can muster. To treat them kindly is the least that Kody and Robyn can do, but there are times when it seems like they are still clinging to the power they lost by driving these women away. This family needs to heal, and that means that both sides need to listen, and try to understand. Right now, it's stalemate, and as the impasse over Coyote Pass continues, it seems like Kody should make a move.

Sister Wives fans can stream the series on the Discovery+ platform.

Source: TLC/YouTube

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